Cindy didn't just lose her son. Cindy had her son taken from her. Its hard enough losing a child but to know that your child would be alive except for the actions of another just seems like a new level of hell.
By JOSH POLTILOVE | The Tampa Tribune
Published: June 02, 2011
Updated: June 02, 2011 - 5:52 PM…
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Added by Kim Morsching on June 3, 2011 at 2:11pm —
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Leaping Tall Buildings... (And Happy Valentine's Day!!!)
It's that time of year again!!! Below is a letter that I sent out to a few hundred people about one of the things I do annually to tell people about the girl who saved my life...
Happy Valentine’s Day!!!
Laura and I don’t really do a lot to celebrate Valentine’s Day… I regularly tell her, “Baby, you’ve got me – every…
Added by Kim Morsching on April 1, 2011 at 3:24pm —
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Well yesterday, Johni's birthday was hard but I made it through. Didnt make it to work or anything but I tried. I had my scrubs on but couldnt get off the chair.
Today is day ten. I made it through a conference for school...still found myself amazed that people could be so happy... and I cant get the ache out of my chest but it's a little better.
I worry about Nikki all alone in FL. She isnt completely alone, she has the kids and her dad and grandparents, but…
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Added by Kimber Beck on October 7, 2010 at 6:48pm —
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Well, I cant believe it has been a week. I have these odd moments of wondering what I am doing and what did I go into that room for and why am I just standing here staring in space. Sometimes I just cant even get off my chair, I cant even will myself to move.
So many people call and want to talk but I just dont want to talk to anyone but my husband, daughter-in-law and my granddaughter. Every day my sister calls and makes me talk to her...but sometimes I just grunt my hellos…
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Added by Kimber Beck on October 5, 2010 at 12:06pm —
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My son was prounounced dead at 6:04pm on Monday, September 27, 2010. He was kept alive until Tuesday when his organs where harvested to help save the lives of others. On Friday, October 1, 2010 we had services for him to celebrate his life. This week on Wednesday, October 6, 2010 we will celebrate his 20th birthday as planned.
So far I have made it through each day. I don't know how. We had to go to target yesterday and suddenly amongst the rubbermaid isle I just had a…
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Added by Kimber Beck on October 3, 2010 at 3:00pm —
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Sunday February 3, 2008 started off as a quiet ordinary day. That all changed in an instant when the phone rang and a voice at the other end asked "Are you Ryan's Mom?" Immediately a red flag went up. He proceded to tell me that Ryan had an accident on the ski slope and 'it's not good'. The caller was one of Ryan's friends. Between him and the rest of the friends they were able to tell me that he was air-lifted to a hospital in Fargo. As we were quickly getting ready to leave another frantic…
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Added by Alice Williams on August 20, 2010 at 7:17pm —
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Kim, I am doing well. Yesterday was a down day. I attended the funeral of a young couple that was murdered and it stirred up memories of our loss as I thought of what that Mother was going through.
I haven't posted before so hope I am doing this right. We lost our son in a situation similar to yours. I explain in another post.
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Added by Alice Williams on August 18, 2010 at 10:32am —
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Working with bereaved or grieving families many different resources come across my desk. I try to look at them from my clinical training are they sound and so forth. But I also try to look at them from a friend perspective is this that does not sound patronizing or obnoxious coming from someone on the outside. After looking at this concept I thought it passed, but I would also like to know what you all think as well.
The concept is that there are three questions that will be helpful…
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Added by John LeMay on July 8, 2009 at 7:27am —
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This is a repost from a blog that I recently wrote for the LifeSource blog "The Source" I hope it is helpful.
In talking with families and listening to their stories, a consistent theme that comes up is how critical it is that they receive support in their grief journey. It may come from immediate family members, a neighbor, coworkers or their faith or community group. More and more, people are also receiving support online, allowing them to connect with others anytime day or night.…
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Added by John LeMay on June 29, 2009 at 12:51pm —
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I have "crying eyes" again. I don't know if I am the only one that experiences this (but I think not). I started calling them crying eyes soon after Kevin died. It is the feeling of moistness around your eyes and the desire to cry. To me, it feels like my eyes want to cry, not me as a whole person, but my eyes.
In the days and months right after Kevin's death I had it all the time. I would wake up in the morning and my eyes and lashes would be wet. The moistness would stay all day.…
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Added by Kim Morsching on June 19, 2009 at 6:21am —
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She sits alone, in the space created just for her, crying. The tears come easily and constantly. Sometimes single tears slip slowly, gently down her cheeks almost as if not to add more pain to her broken heart. Sometimes she weeps and wails, losing her breathe in the process and giving vent to the terrible pain she feels. Sometimes she rages...at the unfairness, the pain, the unnatural act of outliving her son and at God. She beats her breast, tears at her hair and destroys her surroundings.… Continue
Added by Kim Morsching on June 14, 2009 at 7:34pm —
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I have absolutely no clue how blogging works, however I wanted to take the opportunity to thank you for a beautiful website. I read the newsletter from LifeSource today and saw the picture and letter regarding your handsome son, Kevin.
My son Devin was also a handsome young man already at the age of fourteen. His life was cut short in December of 2007 when he took an overdose of prescription medication. What a sad and tragic loss of such a beautiful soul!
My husband and I…
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Added by Dawn Hank on May 26, 2009 at 7:09pm —
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My mind continues to be a jumble of thoughts regarding my family's trip to Pasadena and my ride on the DonateLife float in the Tournament of Roses Parade. I continue to want to write about my experience, but there just seems to be too much to say and not enough words available to describe my experience. I think that trying to write about the entire trip is a mistake. There were entirely too many thoughts, feelings and experiences to describe in one writing. I am going to try and break down the…
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Added by Kim Morsching on January 24, 2009 at 2:00pm —
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On August 20, 2007, my eldest son suffered a traumatic brain injury as a result of a skateboarding accident. After making a 5 hour trip in 4 hours, our family gathered at Kevin's bedside. Those early morning hours were spent keeping my worst fears at bay and praying for Kevin's recovery.
I spent each minute and hour of the next 6 days trying to absorb a new level of hell.
Ok, let's get Kevin healthy and back to school before class starts.
Ok, let's…
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Added by Kim Morsching on December 9, 2008 at 3:00pm —
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The other day I heard about a family that was in upheaval due to the loss of a job by one of the parents. I was filled with sadness for this family and their unsure future. I also thought "I am so blessed".
It took a few minutes for this thought to sink in. Me blessed? Most people would not think of my life as blessed. I lost a child. How could I ever think of my life as blessed?
By and large, I hold the belief that my life is blessed. I have sad and depressing days, but…
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Added by Kim Morsching on December 8, 2008 at 2:30pm —
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Losing someone very close to you - a significant relationship - is a devastating event. The ripples of the loss affect all relationships.
I noticed this when my son came home from college. This is our second Thanksgiving without our oldest son. With 2 boys home for the holidays the house was a flurry of activities. The house was always full of their friends. There was food, laughter and activity.
I noticed that I looked to my son to fulfill these memories of past holidays…
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Added by Kim Morsching on November 30, 2008 at 2:30pm —
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I had a lot of activities this past Saturday. Almost all of them had to do with my son's death. The activities actually began on Friday evening and then lasted through Saturday. On Sunday I awoke with a migraine. I took medicine, but it did not work. I took more and it still only stopped it a little bit.
I was in such pain but tried to keep busy throughout the day. Later in the afternoon, both my husband and daughter took off for activities outside the house. I putzed along trying to…
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Added by Kim Morsching on November 17, 2008 at 2:30pm —
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After Kevin's death I ran. I ran and ran and ran. It was my way to be angry about losing him. Really it was my socially acceptable way to have a temper tantrum.
I was so depressed and was seeing a counselor. A wonderful, wise woman I had seen occasionally throughout the years. I have always felt that seeing some one for a mental health check up is no different that getting a physical. There are some experiences that I haven't developed the tools to help me navigate through. The death…
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Added by Kim Morsching on October 15, 2008 at 2:30pm —
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The beautiful fall days kill me. I will always remember how beautiful it was the morning of 9/11. It was a perfect morning - the kind of morning that makes you want to live here and be alive. It was a day that began with clear blue skies and cool morning air but with the promise of a warmer afternoon. The day that Kevin left home to return to school, the late afternoon that Kevin was injured and the day that Kevin died were the same beautiful, almost fall kind of days as 9/11/2000.
I…
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Added by Kim Morsching on October 3, 2008 at 2:30pm —
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My life changed on August 20, 2007. Truthfully, it ended. At 6:00pm on the 27th my husband received a phone call from the Brookings Police Department that our eldest son, Kevin, had been severely injured in a skateboard accident and was being airlifted to Sioux Falls, SD.
I was on my way home from work and just blocks from home when he called. He asked where I was and told me to hurry home. When I arrived home he told me of the call. We quickly gathered our other two children who…
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Added by Kim Morsching on September 1, 2008 at 2:30pm —
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My friend, Cindy.
Day 10
Remembering Ryan
Three Important Questions to ask Oneself
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